It seems like a lot of big decisions have been coming up lately. No one tells you that second semester is really that time of the year when procrastination comes to fruition, we are all trying to be productive while mustering some amount of personal accomplishment. When all of these procrastinated obligations and neglected responsibilities come to light it suddenly feels like everything is piling on at once. Whether it is getting that big project done before the academic year ends, or trying to find a new place to live since your current is the victim of domestic college student abuse, it elicits a time when stress reaches an all time high. Mentally exhaustion sets in, and emotions feel like they are going haywire.
One more year of your life is about to pass and you still have so much to accomplish, leaving you with an impending feeling of fear and uncertainty. Nothing is worse than feeling like you don't have time to accomplish all that you desire in a given period of time; priorities come into play and you now have to manage energy draining feelings of uncertainty while trying to not drop the ball on getting those final job applications mailed. Maybe you are waiting for something to start once the semester ends...which can leave you feeling about as lost as many were during the Twinkie-apocalypse that occurred earlier this year.
Whatever it may be that causes fear and uncertainty in your life, it is important that you consider how you manage those feelings and handle them in the way that least hinders your ability to maintain sanity. Instinctually the human body is programmed to feel fear and doubt. Look at it like your body's natural checking system that can tell you whether getting a tattoo of your boyfriend/girlfriend's name on your arm is a good idea. You should feel some degree of fear if you are pursuing something that you want, but may not be the best decision at the current time. Those emotions are a reflection that you have invested thought into the given situation and desire more than your current status may suggest.
Another distinction that needs to be made is whether you are doubting the situation, or fearful of something. Where fear is linked with uncertainty and lack of concrete establishment, doubt is more of an internal emotion that helps you to avoid diving head first in the "no dive" zone. These feelings can serve as a prompt for you to decide whether you should choose a different direction, or explore more of the situation that seems uncertain.
Fear
You begin to anticipate the idea of finding your dream job, and just when you start to plan out the new car you will purchase with your salary, the electric fence of reality zaps you back to life and your fears re-surface. You become fearful that it may fall through, or you may disappoint others in the process. While these are totally rational thoughts, it is interesting to consider that the lack of proof you will succeed directly correlates with the lack of proof that you will fail. In the world of a pessimist the universally understood fact is that things will not go as planned and failure is inevitable; life becomes bound by fears and stunted by the vulnerability of insecurity. Whether you are a pessimist or not take your fears as a challenge to make the jump towards something that you truly want. Believe that you can do more than you can't do, and life will begin to feel a little less intimidating.
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| mediacache-3 |
One more year of your life is about to pass and you still have so much to accomplish, leaving you with an impending feeling of fear and uncertainty. Nothing is worse than feeling like you don't have time to accomplish all that you desire in a given period of time; priorities come into play and you now have to manage energy draining feelings of uncertainty while trying to not drop the ball on getting those final job applications mailed. Maybe you are waiting for something to start once the semester ends...which can leave you feeling about as lost as many were during the Twinkie-apocalypse that occurred earlier this year.
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| teamjimmy.com |
Whatever it may be that causes fear and uncertainty in your life, it is important that you consider how you manage those feelings and handle them in the way that least hinders your ability to maintain sanity. Instinctually the human body is programmed to feel fear and doubt. Look at it like your body's natural checking system that can tell you whether getting a tattoo of your boyfriend/girlfriend's name on your arm is a good idea. You should feel some degree of fear if you are pursuing something that you want, but may not be the best decision at the current time. Those emotions are a reflection that you have invested thought into the given situation and desire more than your current status may suggest.
Another distinction that needs to be made is whether you are doubting the situation, or fearful of something. Where fear is linked with uncertainty and lack of concrete establishment, doubt is more of an internal emotion that helps you to avoid diving head first in the "no dive" zone. These feelings can serve as a prompt for you to decide whether you should choose a different direction, or explore more of the situation that seems uncertain.
Fear
You begin to anticipate the idea of finding your dream job, and just when you start to plan out the new car you will purchase with your salary, the electric fence of reality zaps you back to life and your fears re-surface. You become fearful that it may fall through, or you may disappoint others in the process. While these are totally rational thoughts, it is interesting to consider that the lack of proof you will succeed directly correlates with the lack of proof that you will fail. In the world of a pessimist the universally understood fact is that things will not go as planned and failure is inevitable; life becomes bound by fears and stunted by the vulnerability of insecurity. Whether you are a pessimist or not take your fears as a challenge to make the jump towards something that you truly want. Believe that you can do more than you can't do, and life will begin to feel a little less intimidating.
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| visualize.us |
If one bad breakup got together and had a child with one bad relationship the end result would be the feeling of doubt. Relationships are the instant associations we make when it comes to considering how doubt functions in life. It involves past experiences, knowledge of behaviors, or situations that did not go as planned. I was talking with someone today about a potential guy who she was talking to, or in her words the guy she "made intense eye contact with one day" which in the words of a 20 something means things could get serious. Naturally the next step was to look him up online. We immediately spotted "red flags" all over his Facebook profile and she left the conversation overwhelmed with doubt, accepting the fact that a date for valentines was quickly becoming less of an option. The profile says something like 'organizing my massive collection of Brett Michaels albums' or 'can't remember the last time I took a shower' and instantly your excitement of this new person begins to waver. Similar to fear, doubts can also provide clarity to a situation that on its own may seem off putting. You may feel like something isn't right, intuition will try to warn you, but it is human nature to pretend that "it's fine" leaving you in an endless battle with your subconscious over what is right. It isn't until after you make a decision that the repercussions of your doubts are either affirmed or negated. Maybe you shouldn't have slept through 5 weeks of classes, or dated your ex again for the 5th time, but with doubt comes the opportunity to learn from your own decisions. Drawing from the pre-school lessons that parallel endless sessions of 'timeout', you are directly responsible for your actions. Unfortunately real life timeout is generally more serious than that time you tried to cut your own hair. As you get older doubts become a mode of self preservation, reminding you that dating the person who cheated on you twice is about as smart as taking the clippers to your bangs.
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| stuffyoushouldhate.com |
The primary lesson that determines whether you are handling your fears and doubts adequately is to understand the relationship you have with yourself. You will know if you really want something bad enough to achieve it. No matter who in your life may try to persuade you otherwise, you ultimately are the only person who can know what is right and wrong. Whether it is fear or doubt hopefully your second semester and/or life decisions can begin to feel less stressful with a greater understanding of the emotions that fuel the unknown.
-RV
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